Teaching your kids important lessons like gratitude, patience and empathy is often a slow and ongoing process. But what should you do when it becomes clear that your lessons aren't quite getting through? Is it appropriate to exact a big punishment in order to prove your point? 

One mother has shared her dilemma on Mumsnet after her ten-year-old displayed some less than desirable behaviour on his tenth birthday. 

The woman's son had told her he wanted some vouchers and gifts for his birthday. Relatives already planned on giving him vouchers, so the mum made other plans. 

"I didn't want to get more money/ vouchers so thought with holidays around the corner I would get tickets for a day at Legoland," she wrote. "We've been once before many years ago and both children have asked a few times about going back. Winner idea, I thought."

Unfortunately it didn't go to plan

When the boy started opening his gifts, it became clear that he wasn't feeling very happy with his haul.

When he opened his first gift, an amazon gift card he responded: "what's this? Paper? My favourite."

The clothes he received he barely acknowledged and his mum's Legoland trip? " You've got a gift for you and sibling, not just me."

His mother tried to explain that he couldn't exactly go to Legoland alone but he wasn't interested in hearing it. His final gift was a clothing item he had specifically requested from a sibling. 

"He opens it and doesn't say anything. No thank you, nothing," his mum wrote. "Am I being unreasonable to take the whole lot back?" 

source:- https://www.kidspot.com.au/parenting/real-life/reader-stories/i-want-to-return-all-my-ungrateful-childs-birthday-gifts/news-story/79d20476e1299b2e7481c6a9686dc914