Ask Amy: I saw her selling my gifts online Plus: We thought we were his sole heirs until we found this mysterious photo.

DEAR AMY: I have two granddaughters who have outgrown the expensive toys I bought for them when they were young and I was financially comfortable.

Fast-forward 12 years, and the girls are teens. My daughter is divorced and strapped for cash. I am retired and on a reduced income.

Although she never mentioned it to me, I saw that my daughter has placed their toys for sale on a local website. It irks me to see a $100 toy chest (which I bought for them) being sold now for $25 (along with other items).

She doesn’t offer me any of the proceeds, even though she knows I can use the money. Am I wrong to feel perturbed about this?

Sad Nana

DEAR SAD: Your daughter should have mentioned to you that she intended to sell these things, but overall it seems that she is making a responsible choice. Unless these are family heirlooms (in which case, you might want them back), she and the girls have the right to sell them.

No, you are not owed money from the proceeds. Your daughter is doing what she can to reduce her possessions and bring in some cash. Even though your feelings are hurt, I think it’s best to get over it.

DEAR AMY: My elderly uncle died two years ago. There were some delays in processing his estate, but my sister and I are finally cleaning out the last of his belongings.

He never married or had children (that we knew of), so we are the sole heirs.

He also left no will that we could find. Both his sisters preceded him in death.

But now, two years after his death, we finally found, hidden in a briefcase in storage, a will made out to a woman from South America. The will was dated 1998, but never signed. We then found a photo of him with this woman, and another photo of the woman with a little girl. Conveniently, there is a calendar in the background of the photo, and it was taken in 1998, so this little girl is now in her early 20s.

I’m not exaggerating when I tell you there’s a strong family resemblance. There’s no evidence in bank records that he’d been sending money to this woman and the girl. But he traveled a lot for business so it’s plausible that he was in South America during this time.

I strongly suspect that this girl is our first cousin. It would probably not be too difficult to find her, but should I?

Part of me wonders if she would welcome this news, or if it’s not news to her, if she would welcome contact from American cousins 20 years older than she.

But maybe she has been wondering about her father her whole life.

What am I obligated to do here? What’s the ethical thing to do?

source :- https://www.mercurynews.com/2019/11/05/mysterious-photo-invites-ethical-question/